Marriage

 

A wedding is one of life’s great moments, a time of solemn commitment as well as good wishes, feasting and joy. St John tells us how Jesus shared in such an occasion at Cana, and gave there a sign of new beginnings as he turned water into wine. 

Marriage is intended by God to be a creative relationship, as his blessing enables husband and wife to love and support each other in good times and in bad, and to share in the care and upbringing of children. For Christians, marriage is also an invitation to share life together in the spirit of Jesus Christ. It is based upon a solemn, public and life-long covenant between a man and a woman, declared and celebrated in the presence of God and before witnesses.
On their wedding day the bride and bridegroom face each other, make their promises and receive God’s blessing. The witnesses of the marriage express their support by their presence and prayers. That support does not end on the wedding day: the couple should value continued encouragement in the days and years ahead of them.

Can we get married at St Mary's? 
 
The Church does get booked up for weddings so please check that you meet the qualifications for marriage at St Mary's before making any firm arrangements; particularly with regard to booking your reception. The date and time you want may not be available.
 
What should we do now?
(1) Contact the Parish Adsministrator to confirm that the date you want is available. The PA will also guide you through the early stages of the process. 
(2) Download, print, complete and post the Qualifying Connection Form. Sorry, this does have to be done by snail-mail!
(3) Check out the current wedding fees.
(4) Download, print, complete and post the GiftAid form, if you are a UK taxpayer, and send it in with your payment. Again, this must be by snail-mail.
(5) Get two copies of the book "Growing Together" and start reading it in readiness for your preparation session with the vicar.
 
FAQs
 
  • Will I need to produce an Order of Service? 
    We will provide a template for you after the banns have been read. Please be sure to speak to the organist before submitting your draft copy.
  • What are Banns?
    Before marriage in the Church of England it is usually necessary to 'call banns', giving a public opportunity for anyone to make a legal objection before the day of the wedding. This happens in church on three consecutive Sundays within three months of the wedding day. Banns need to be called both in the parish where the wedding is to take place and in any other parish where either of the couple resides. The vicar must receive a certificate from the home parish before a wedding can go ahead.
  • Who needs to be at the wedding rehearsal?
    Anyone involved in the wedding. Ideally this should be the couple, the best man, anyone giving a reading or performance, the person giving the bride away, and the bridesmaids. 
  • Can I provide my own flowers? 
  • There are always flowers in church except during Lent, and we would be delighted with a contribution towards our flower fund. These are in neutral colours so that, should you wish to bring in your own extra flowers you can do so. However, please remember to take them with you after the wedding or come to an arrangement with someone being married on the same day.
  • What about confetti?
  • Confetti is a lovely way to celebrate the day, but please try to ensure it is biodegradable, and is thrown away from the doors where others may slip on it.